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Christina, I'm living with a woman that I've been with for 2 years now. I love her but things are getting so stressful. I hate drama and it seems like that's all I deal with. Her friends thrive on drama, so when I get home from work and on weekends when they are here it is nothing but drama and chaos. I'm so tired of it. I don't know how to remedy this situation. Dawn Dear Dawn, I do understand...I hate drama too. I think life is to short to spend on childish drama. So now, how to help your situation. First of all, let me say that when you get home from work and weekends should be "quality time". There's nothing wrong with having friends over, but not all the time. Everyone needs down time with just them and their loved ones or family. So, if these friends are over all the time it might be good to chisel out some of that time for just you and your partner. This will be the first step in controlling the drama and it's good for your relationship. Next, you mentioned "her" friends. What about "your" friends or "mutual" friends. Don't get me wrong there's nothing wrong with you each having your own friends but if one person's friends are controlling all the time then it can be an issue. Let her keep her friends but try to make some mutual friends that are less chaotic....less drama. Maybe she can hang with her friends more while you are at work (keeping the drama there, not bringing it home) and then you all spend more "couple" time and "mutual" friends time when you are together. This should also help cut down on the drama. There's nothing wrong with having a conversation with your partner and letting her know that you really want a stress free zone when you come home from work and that all the drama drags you down. She should be able to understand this and work along with you on this. Life will always have SOME drama, we can't control that but we can make changes in areas that we see that lead to the drama. Good luck with your efforts in making this situation better. Love To All, Christina PLEASE SEND ALL QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS TO: |