| Dear Christina, I was dating a girl for the past 6 months. I fell madly in love with her and now she has found someone else. We broke up but are still friends. I've never loved anyone the way I love her. I've begged her to come back and she just keeps telling me to move one. I don't know what to do, I don't want to move on. Deena Dear Deena, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. When you find the person you feel you were meant to be with it is devastating to lose that. I know it's said to often, but it's true...time will heal your pain. No, you won't forget her or the love you have for her but you will heal and doors will open for you. If she has found someone else then her heart is not where it should be with you. True love is a 2 sided thing, not one sided. So, just because you loved her completely doesn't mean it was necessarily meant to be. No one wants to be with someone that doesn't love them back with a complete heart. You may love many things about her but no one loves an unfaithful heart. She obviously cannot commit to you (right now) and she evidently needs time and space to explore other options. Since she's telling you to move on...well, that says something. Listen to what she is saying. Give her space. Let her do her thing and you give yourself some space to heal and pursue other interests when you are ready to (and you will be even though it may not seem like it right now). Once your feelings aren't quite as "raw" then you can reconsider your friendship with her. If you can keep that without hurting yourself or putting yourself through more misery, then do so but back off for a while so that both of you can breathe. I know right now you feel like you want her back, but think of what you truly deserve. Don't you deserve happiness and love? We all do. So, after you've healed some take a fresh approach and look elsewhere. Don't make her feel like you "need" her, especially since she's with someone else now! You don't need to feed her ego. Let her know that you are going to give yourself some space to breathe and think and take care of yourself and your needs. Then actually DO IT. Put yourself first for a change. As hard as this may be, let it make you stronger and wiser. You will find a soul mate and when you do....you will BOTH know it. Good luck and keep yourself strong and determined. Love To All, Christina PLEASE SEND ALL QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS TO: | 