As gay people, most of us have had to deal with the unrelenting hatred, prejudice and fear by some homophobic heterosexual Americans who cannot or will not accept homosexual Americans.
I am not talking about ALL straight Americans, just those who do their best to make our lives miserable.
In a society still dominated by men, men's general consensus is more popular than women's general consensus, and I think we all know that a lot of men consider lesbians to be downright sexy, because there is no man in the picture to ruin the aesthetic. (Vice versa for gay men.)
Additionally, gay women are more "socially acceptable," for one of the traditional reasons behind homophobia: women are inferior to men.
Gay men are discriminated against because they have no honor: romantic interest in men is for women only, and when a man participates he is "lowering himself" to a women's level.
Gay women, on the other hand, are discriminated against less because romantic interest in women is a man's attribute, giving them honor.
Many people quote the Bible as their reason for gay bias, denying us respect, acceptance and basic human rights, going against what America AND Jesus Christ is all about. But the funny thing is, I believe that the reason they cannot accept us is because of a very primitive, childish and emotional reaction that has nothing to do with the Bible.
So, why is it that for the most part straight society more readily accepts lesbians than they do gay men? Like my closest guy friend Dennis for example, he absolutely adores Laura and I and loves hanging out with my lesbian friends when they stop over but has told us that he has no use for gay men. And when I have asked him why he says; "Because it's disgusting". Testosterone talking? Probably so.
On really a basic, primal level, homophobic heterosexual men cannot accept gay men because they are not like them. And the root of the issue is the childhood ridicule and scorn taught by society against any perceived weakness and femininity.
What is really behind the arrogant, self-righteous, smug, mouth foaming, and red eyed craziness against gay people and gay men in particular?
The root is really antifeminist…anything to do with females. Men are strong, women are weak. Men are leaders, women are followers. Men have intellectual discourse, women just gossip. Men are aggressive, women are passive.
This is also why men insult each other with female references. And we've all heard that coaches and drill sergeants humiliate their members by calling them "Girls," "Ladies" and "Pussies"; emasculating them to make them weaker and easier to control while making themselves appear stronger. Of course, "Faggots" is the next term stepped up.
Even gay men use words like "Girlfriend," "Princess" or "Queen" when talking about each other.
BUT; You can't throw around terms like "fag" and "gay" without bringing terms like "dyke." Then there's the stereotypical image of the truck driving tattoo wearing agenda of rage bitter as f*ck angry dyke as lesbians (besides lipstick lesbians) are portrayed in the media. The discriminatory remarks are still there for lesbians, you just do not hear them as often.
Gay men and Lesbians do have complementarily, it just works a little differently. Remember that physically, emotionally and psychologically, all human beings are actually dual in nature, and everyone has elements of male and female within themselves to varying degrees. We are different genders, but we are still the same species, thus, we should be treated equally.
The Bible contains six admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to heterosexuals. That doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals. It's just that they need more supervision. ~Lynn Lavner
I hope you all have a wonderfully prosperous week!
~Cee~